All of us from childhood know that people keep diaries. Adults often cease to keep a diary – too little time, no time to think, etc. And many people confuse personal diary with a personal blog. What is a diary and why should it be led to all, I will tell an example from my personal life.
What should fall into the diary
In general, writing in the diary needs everything that bothers you and very happy – the main thing is to be honest with yourself. If you write about work, then do not forget to describe your joys and punctures, achievements and mistakes. Tag people and events, projects and places. Describe honestly your emotions and embarrassments. Be sure to assign the points to the described events – from 1 to 5.
The main thing is honesty and frankness – as in confession.
Diary is not a blog
You will never be honest in public. You will not write that the project you failed and only you are to blame for this. You will not write about problems with your loved one and that your relative has health problems. You will not write bold plans, because you are afraid to be ridiculed. All in a personal blog write only what they are praised for. Only a diary, closed from strangers, will allow you to write everything in it exactly as you saw it and experienced it.
Blog diary is not an obstacle.
I spent almost a year at the company, which is the best place to work in the post-Soviet space for creative and thinking people – almost everyone wants to work there. There you have a hail of delicacies in the form of a comfortable office, perfect furniture and excellent equipment, which the rest only dream of. The people around are just a dream. However, working there, I was uncomfortable with the corporate culture that had developed over the years, which simply depressed me (it just did not suit me, it does not mean that it is bad). Almost every day I started writing my thoughts in the diary program on the iPhone. There you could tag people, events and places. To mark projects, which concerned the recording. And most importantly, to expose the scores from 1 to 5. Why is this all?
You live day by day and experience a lot of emotions – good and bad. But our memory is arranged in such a way that summing up some results, for example monthly ones, we incorrectly perceive what has happened – basically good remains, and our brain forces the negative out of the general picture. And on the basis of this remaining picture, you draw wrong conclusions about where your place is and what you need to do for the rest of your life. Examples of such an incorrect analysis are mass: the army from which hazing and beatings are forgotten, and only good memories remain, you do not remember anything about the old classmates – all such bright and lacy, student years – idealized and forgotten are coming before us with a solid party and an ocean of pleasant experiences. All this was not so, so you recreate it in your subconscious and again want to be small, go to school and go back to college.
So about my story … The dream company in my head that forgot all the negative, in crumbs formed into a single oil painting in the diary program and got 3.2 points out of 5 during the recording time, received my own ratings and colleagues and partners (now I rely not on my memories working with them, but on analysis). Taking the decision on dismissal, I went over the notes and realized that I did not have anything in the dream company.
About the programs for conducting a diary I have tried, I will tell in the next story.
Do you keep a diary?